I'm downright frightening!

I made a rather unwelcome discovery this week, I found out that I have become scary!
According to Rox, her boyfriend is "quite scared" of me! Good grief. When I expressed my shock at this, Paula then added that "all her friends are quite scared of me too." Huh?
My initial reaction was to shrug my shoulders and think - so what? Quite frankly when your 19 year old daughter's boyfriend is scared of you it's actually quite a good thing, no?
But to be honest, I am a little bit offended! I always want my girls' friends to feel welcome in our home and I would imagine that if they consider me to be a "scary mother" they are not feeling exactly welcome are they?
I actually know what is at the root of all of this, it's the fact that if I have a problem with one of my girls while their friends are there, I don't shut up about it, I deal with the issue there and then. I would never have a full-on screaming match with them in front of their friends (obviously!) but I will go and give them instructions and say if something is bugging me. It seems that their friends find this......frightening.
For example: a couple of weeks ago Rox had her boy-friend staying with us for the weekend and Paula had a couple of friends over.
Picture the scene: the masses have eaten - I walk through the lounge and notice various plates with the detritus of the meals left in them and half empty cooldrink glasses left all over the place. I'm a bit unhappy about this*, as when the girls have friends over I still expect them to clean up after meals etc. So I walk through to Paula's bedroom to ask her to please clean up the bits and pieces from their meal that are left in the lounge, only to discover that her bed has not been made. There she is, entertaining her friends in her bed-room after lunch, with an unmade bed! Hello! In my household this is just totally unacceptable. Do I shut up about it and wait until her friends are gone? I just can't do it! So I went in there and calmly told her that I expected her bed to be made immediately and that she should clean up the mess they had left in the lounge after lunch. I didn't rant and rave, I just stated my case.
I gather from Rox and Paula that it is scenes such as this which have caused me to be perceived as "scary". I just don't get it! Surely other mothers don't leave things like this unmentioned? Am I a monster?
*When my girls have friends over it always amazes me that they will leave wet swimming towels, empty cooldrink glasses, coffee mugs and plates lying about all over the place. Is it unnatural of me to expect that teenagers are capable of carrying mugs and plates to the sink? I am more than happy to attend to dishwashing etc when my girls are entertaining guests but I think it's a bit insulting when these teenage guests expect me to carry their dirty coffee mugs from the lounge to the kitchen. Is it just me being anal?? Paula tells me that at one friend's house the friend will actually yell at her mother from in-front of the TV, asking her to bring them juice!! Unbelievable!
So having given this matter some thought, I have decided that if I am known as The Scary Mom, that's actually perfectly okay with me! In fact, I am beginning to like it.

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Sniff, sniff....

So you noticed that it's nearly Friday and I haven't posted since last Friday, huh? Thing is I have a cold... and I am feeling miserable..... So forgive me okay! I'll be back as soon as I feel better, I promise.

Friday Fill-ins

Friday Fill-ins

1. Give me chocolate and I'll eat it!!

2. Whenever I try to think of something decent to post, my mind goes blank.

3. I wish I could eat whatever I want to without gaining an ounce...

4. Chinese supper at "Just So Chinese" was the last thing I ate that was utterly delicious.

5. To live in this world you need to be very brave.

6. Other than this one, Simply Mel (I think?!) is the last blog I commented on

7. And as for the weekend, tonight I'm looking forward to Pizza (I know it's all about food today and yes I am supposed to be on diet....!), tomorrow my plans include considering how very large my waist line is and Sunday, I want to plan to diet on Monday!

Want to join in? Click on the Friday Fill-ins button above

A bit of fun....

Thanks Allie for tagging me, I need something light and "fluffy" today and here it is:

Rules: Copy the questions and exchange your answers for mine. Only ONE WORD answers allowed, ok? Then you tag another 5 people - don't forget to tell them!

Here we go:
1. Where is your cell phone? desk
2. Your significant other? away
3. Your hair? mousey
4. Your mother? deceased
5. Your father? busy
6. Your favorite? love
7. Your dream last night? dunno
8. Your favorite drink? Hunters
9. Your dream/goal? peace
10. What room you are in? office
11. Your hobby? reading
12. Your fear? lots
13. Where do you want to be in 6 years? retired
14. Where were you last night? home
15. Something that you are not? ambitious
16. Muffins? blueberry
17. Wish list item? furniture
18. Where you grew up? Greytown
19. Last thing you did? work
20. What are you wearing? clothes
21. Your TV? there
22. Your pets? lovely
23. Friends? nice
24. Your life? busy
25. Your mood? irritable
26. Missing some one? hubby
27. Car? Toyota
28. Something you're not wearing? shoes
29. Your favorite store? woollies
30. Your favorite color? blue
33. When is the last time you laughed? yesterday
34. Last time you cried? Wednesday
35. One place that I go to over and over? mall
36. One person who texts me regularly? Rox
38. My favorite place to eat? Italian
39. My favorite food? prawns
40. What did you do today? worked!

Ok I am tagging:

Feeling all loved up!

This Valentine's Day was a momentous one for me. Seriously. It was huge!

Grant gave me a Valentine's gift for the first time in 20+ years!! And wait, there's more. He wrote a romantic message on our bathroom mirror before heading off for his 5am MTB ride. I still can't believe it.... I'm in shock.

What would have been a truly romantic moment - me sitting down to have my morning pee and seeing the romantic message on the mirror in front of me (can't you just feel the romance in that?) ;-) was ruined somewhat by Rox coming into our room to say hello, at the crack of dawn, and making a quick detour to our loo before leaping into bed with me. So instead of me being the one to sit down and pee, it was Rox. I was then brutally alerted to the fact that Grant had fiiiiiinally found his romantic side by Rox, perched on the loo, brandishing a great wad of loo paper, yelling "Mom! Come quick, you have to see this!!" Grief, I thought there was something wrong with her bowels or something... But hey, the end result was worth it! Rox and I were literally gob-smacked, staring at the mirror like a couple of idiots with our mouths hanging open.

It has taken more than 20 years for my man to finally wake up to the fact that, yes, even though we are married and he demonstrates his love for me daily by doing stuff like taking the rubbish out, I'd still like a little romance in my life, especially on the Day of Luuuurve!! And no he didn't give me edible undies or chocolate body paint - he gave me a Sharks T-shirt - but I'm not complaining!

Then the Sharks went and beat the Stormers in the 1st Super 14 rugby match, the beauties! Can a day get any better than this?

Well in fact it can - to top off my super, duper Valentine's Day - Allie made me the very first recipient of the Great Post award - have a peek at the award in my sidebar and read all about it on Allie's blog here and here. Thanks Allie, you're a gem and I am honoured!

When Insults Had Class

I received this in an email and thought it was brilliant!

These glorious insults are from an era before the English language got boiled down to 4-letter words.

The exchange between Churchill & Lady Astor:
She said, "If you were my husband I'd give you poison."
He said, "If you were my wife, I'd drink it."

A member of Parliament to Disraeli:
"Sir, you will either die on the gallows or of some unspeakable disease."
"That depends, Sir," said Disraeli, "whether I embrace your policies or your mistress."

"He had delusions of adequacy." - Walter Kerr

"He has all the virtues I dislike and none of the vices I admire." - Winston Churchill

"I have never killed a man, but I have read many obituaries with great pleasure." - Clarence Darrow

"He has never been known to use a word that might send a reader to the dictionary." - William Faulkner (about Ernest Hemingway).

"Thank you for sending me a copy of your book; I'll waste no time reading it." - Moses Hadas

"I didn't attend the funeral, but I sent a nice letter saying I approved of it." - Mark Twain

"He has no enemies, but is intensely disliked by his friends." - Oscar Wilde

"I am enclosing two tickets to the first night of my new play; bring a friend.... if you have one." - George Bernard Shaw to Winston Churchill
"Cannot possibly attend first night, will attend second... if there is one." - Winston Churchill, in response.

"I feel so miserable without you; it's almost like having you here." - Stephen Bishop

"He is a self-made man and worships his creator." - John Bright

"I've just learned about his illness. Let's hope it's nothing trivial." - Irvin S. Cobb

"He is not only dull himself; he is the cause of dullness in others." - Samuel Johnson

"He is simply a shiver looking for a spine to run up." - Paul Keating

"In order to avoid being called a flirt, she always yielded easily." - Charles, Count Talleyrand

"He loves nature in spite of what it did to him." - Forrest Tucker

"Why do you sit there looking like an envelope without any address on it?" Mark Twain

"His mother should have thrown him away and kept the stork." - Mae West

"Some cause happiness wherever they go; others, whenever they go." - Oscar Wilde

"He uses statistics as a drunken man uses lamp-posts... for support rather than illumination." - Andrew Lang (1844-1912)

"He has Van Gogh's ear for music." - Billy Wilder

"I've had a perfectly wonderful evening. But this wasn't it." - Groucho Marx

Of Mojo gone and holidays....

I have to confess that my blogging mojo has gone A.W.O.L - again..... I've been a bad, bad blogger. My life is so full at the moment that blogging seems to have taken a back-seat. This is just a little catch-up post.

We got some bad news yesterday, my father-in-law had a stroke which affected his vision very severely. Details are sketchy right now, but he is seeing a specialist this morning, so we should have a clearer idea of exactly what is going on later today. Very, very worrying... I love my Dad-in-law and hate to think of him suffering....

Impi was home for the weekend, so we got to celebrate his birthday somewhat belatedly. He filled us in on everything that is happening at school and it seems to be go..go..go. Being deputy head-boy and chairman of the RCL (representative council of learners) keeps him enormously busy and then add to that the fact that he is Captain of the swimming and waterpolo teams, trying out for 1st team soccer and in the 1st team rugby squad... I just hope that in-between all of this he gets some academics done!!!

We acquired a new dog on Sunday. It is crazy for us to have yet another pet BUT the people across the road were moving last weekend and they had to re-home Lilo, on the day that they were actually going they had still not found a home for her and taking into account that she is a very sweet girl-dog and she would wag her tail at us every day....... We spent the preceding 10 days thinking with our heads and not our hearts, saying "No, we certainly don't need another dog", but on D-Day we led Lilo across the road to join our menagerie.... She is settling down quite well, she loves us to bits, but has issues with Chloe and Nala (well considering they have spent the last 3 years barking at each other across the road, that's understandable!) and Jax, Zip and her have not yet found any common ground ;-) I'm sure, in time, they will all get along just fine.

And I've saved the best for last: part of what is filling my life is the planning of a very exciting, once in a lifetime, dream come true holiday. (Can you hear that I'm just a little excited? LOL)

You might remember that we had planned a trip which was supposed to happen in May last year, but then with my mum being ill it was cancelled? Well, my (very darling!) Dad has invited us to come with him on a trip to Europe in June/July. We'll be starting with a Trafalgar tour which takes us to: Amsterdam, Rhineland, Innsbruck, Venice, Rome, Florence, Lucerne and Paris. Then we get to spend a few days (unfortunately very few!) with my BFF Lisa and her family in Surrey and we finally have 2 days in London (and oh my gosh am I planning to cram an awful lot into those two days...I feel for my family, truly I do, they are going to have their feet walked off of them!)

So that's what's been happening in my corner of the globe. I will try to be a better blogger this week, but I'm not promising.....

Happy Birthday Imps!!

Our boy turns 18 today!!! Love you babe, hope you have a wonderful day :-)
I couldn't be more proud of him if he were my very own son
Please try to ignore the very busy curtains in the background! I need Photoshop!

Imps and my Dad

Oh and if you're wondering exactly how Imps fits into our family ...... you can read all about it here and here ;-)

Being a woman...it ain't easy!

It dawned on me this morning that I spend an awful lot of time faffing about my appearance, just so that I look..........normal! What's that all about??

Grant shaves, gets in the shower - lathers up, rinses, gets out and dries himself, brushes his teeth, rolls on some deo, dresses and he's good to go. The man doesn't even have hair to brush!

I on the other hand, brush teeth, get in the shower, shampoo my hair, rinse it, condition it, apply face wash, wash myself, shave arm pits, shave legs, exfoliate, rinse out conditioner, turn off the hot tap and rinse off with ice cold water. Then the fun really starts! Apply toner, apply moisturiser, apply eye cream, apply roll-on, apply body lotion, apply hand cream, brush hair, apply hair product, dress, apply foundation cream, apply make-up, put on jewellery, wash glasses, take vitamins...... you get the picture! And this just so that I don't look completely frightening!!!

Being a woman..... it's not easy!